Merry Christmas

Girls are hella complicated for no reason.

I just talked to an old friend I haven’t been in touch with in months. Turns out he has a new girlfriend whom he takes to school everyday (which btw, I think is very very nice of him!). And she’s ignoring him and giving him an attitude and he has no clue what it’s about.

I know I’ve acted like this, but this is one of those moments where you step back and realize that crap is ANNOYING. People can’t read your mind, and your boyfriend definitely wont know what’s wrong with you unless you tell him. Girls play too many mind games.

You know damn well you wouldn’t be acting like that if you were in that “talking” phase, so don’t change up on him and start being a bitch ‘cause you got too comfortable.

Stay simple.

Stay classy.

Good guys vs. Bad guys

By no means do I base my life on The Hills, but Lauren Conrad said something really smart once. She said that all girls want to be the one that changes the bad boys. And as I was watching The Ugly Truth, I realized that’s the basis of a lot of movies. The guy is the bad boy while the girl is the all around good girl. And they fall in love and she changes him into this ideal good guy. But let’s be REAL here. No guy will change unless he WANTS to. And to be brutally honest, it’s not very likely that a girl will make him want to do that.

Once again, these romantic movies are fallacies.

We look for bad boys all the time. I guess something in our genes make us vulnerable to guys that’ll break our hearts. And we call boys stupid? We wanna be “his main” and “his down ass” but what about being his ONLY one, instead of showing off to everyone that you’re holding a guy like that down?

Perhaps it’s also the chase that we like. Good boys are always there for us while the bad boys make us chase them around. Good boys are straight forward with how they feel. Bad boys are mysterious.

Dig even deeper. I messed with bad boys, and nothing but. Heck, I was stuck on one for three years of my life… and some! And I always wanted guys that didn’t seem like the long term type when I had the best, most faithful guy that loved me for two years just waiting. (Of course, I didn’t know any of this then). It was because I WASN’T READY. I said I wanted it, but in reality I was just having fun. And when I finally realized I wanted to be in something serious- I took on the good guy. So maybe, it’s not them ladies. Maybe it’s us.

1. You can’t change or mold a guy into what you want him to be. “Love a person for what he is, not what you want him to be.”
2. Good guys are there, you’re just not looking hard enough.
3. Maybe you’re just not ready for a good guy yet. Maybe you’re the bad girl.

You know what I miss...

I miss the insignificant things that people don’t pay mind to after they get comfortable in a relationship. I miss the little things like holding hands and having it actually mean something, and not just what something I’m accustomed to. I miss just kissing and feeling every chill run through my body — just making out like there’s nothing better to do when we both know we’ve got a million things on our lists, but it doesn’t even matter ‘cause what we’re engaging in is far more important, haha. I miss the butterflies in my stomach every time we’d accidentally touch and the loud thumps of my heartbeats when I’d see your name on my caller ID. I miss the feeling of butterflies I’d get knowing I was about to see you that day. I miss the unfamiliarity of you.

I miss getting to know you more and more everyday. I miss asking questions I don’t know the answers to. I miss not knowing what you’re about to say and being surprised with what you do. I miss you tending to my emotions every time you thought you might’ve, even in the slightest way, hurt my feelings.

I miss the newness of it all.

You treat someone with utmost respect when you yourself are trying to win theirs. You cater to their emotions delicately as if it were a fragile glass menagerie that could shatter into pieces at your single movement.

I miss the unfamiliarity of the other person, the willingness and persistence of getting to know their likes and dislikes, their hobbies, their convictions, and the depths of their soul.

But most importantly, I miss the good old days. “Now it’s hardly simple, it’s just simply hard.”

Sorry, girl moment.

A woman can handle almost anything if you tell her the truth about it, but if you lie to her, you will undermine her faith in herself, and ultimately her trust in you. Tell her the truth. Let her work it out. You can damage love and love will repair; but once you damage trust, you’ve got a rough road to walk. A lie needs support, but the truth stands alone.

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